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Questions for Deepening Our Bond
Today, I just wanted to share with you some valuable questions to share with your partner as you make time to navigate the challenges in...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Apr 25, 20231 min read
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"I'm a People Pleaser"
“I’m a chronic people pleaser.” “I have a savior complex.” “I am better at showing up for others than for myself.” “I don’t know how to...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Feb 10, 20234 min read
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Narcissism and Attachment
Narcissism on its own is a "complex phenomenon," as noted in a 2015 research article (Cascio, Konrath & Falk, 2015). When you take a...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Sep 7, 20214 min read
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Shattered Heart - Religious Trauma
In the context of religion and the church, many people find peace with prayer, service, or spirituality. For others mental health though,...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Aug 23, 20214 min read
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Developing Mental Health Stability
You've heard the saying, "when it rains, it pours." How do you continue to embrace changes and push past the ongoing rainfall as you move...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jul 1, 20213 min read
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Before I Walk the Aisle - Premarital Counseling
Here, I want to share with you a few different benefits that can be cultivated if you choose to work through issues early on in your...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jun 11, 20214 min read
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Guilt Around Sharing Emotions
We didn’t all have the shared experience of a secure attachment in our childhoods, or for a long enough period to build a safe haven with...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jun 8, 20214 min read
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Cultivating Connection With Your Therapist
Just as attachment theory was cultivated from studies around infant and parent attachment bonds, we have the sole responsibility of...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 27, 20214 min read
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"You're a People Pleaser"
We can learn to reconnect with ourselves and our loved ones in a secure manner. When we learn to look outside-in, we start to piece...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 24, 20214 min read
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Lacking Initiative
While we must be “showing the ability” to act independently to meet our goals, our secure attachments want to see us succeed—they want to...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Mar 8, 20213 min read
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“I feel so Insecure”
In the same way we might see clients struggling to communicate their emotions with their loved ones, they may have also experienced...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Mar 6, 20214 min read
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